Wedding season is in full swing. Some of these beautiful brides that stand glowing at the altar had morphed into scary beings, nearly unrecognizable from their normal selves. These frightening creatures that terrorize their planners, fiancés, families, and friends are known as…dun, dun, duuun…bridezillas. We have all heard tales of otherwise sensible women becoming bridezillas as they take on the huge task of planning their weddings. You may have even encountered one firsthand. Now that it is your turn to plan the wedding of your dreams, you do not want to become a bridezilla during the process. You might already be seeing signs of yourself changing into a mean bride you do not want to be. Here are a few tips to help you avoid becoming a bridezilla.
SET A REALISTIC BUDGET
Nothing creates a bridezilla faster than the stress of spending too much money. Going into debt could ruin a wedding and the marriage that follows. Review your finances before you begin planning your wedding in order to set a realistic budget. Do not go into debt trying to put on the wedding of the century. Make a list of must-haves and a separate list for would-like-to-haves. Focus first on your must-have list while trying to dwindle down your would-like-to-haves. Then, if your budget permits, add in the extras from your would-like-to-have list. Remind yourself that, even if you have to go for the cheaper item, your special day will be no less special.
IT’S OKAY TO ASK FOR HELP
Although you are super woman, there is no need to drive yourself crazy trying to do everything by yourself. This will only create unnecessary stress. Utilize your support system. People are more willing to help than you may think. So use them. Don’t be afraid to delegate tasks to your team of friends and family. Also, consider hiring a professional wedding planner. Some planners offer a day-of service where he/she steps into to the planning process a few months prior to the wedding day to guide you through the process and coordinate everything on the day of.
PERIODICALLY CHECK IN WITH A CLOSE FAMILY MEMBER OR GOOD FRIEND
Every now and then, be sure to talk to someone who will tell you the truth about whether you are exhibiting signs of bridezilla-esque behavior. Also, take time to stop and check in with yourself to see if you are over-obsessing on minimal details. Be honest with yourself when considering if you are content with your own behavior. Ask yourself if you would want to work with you if you were someone else.
TAKE A BREAK TO RE-EVALUATE YOUR PRIORITIES
Just stop. I mean it. Literally stop. Take time to just…breathe. Take a break from your wedding planning to simply relax. Set aside some time to spend with your fiancé, and make it a rule that no one can discuss the wedding while you all are on break. During this time, focus on why you are getting married in the first place. Hopefully, you two will remind each other that the life you will build together is more important than the wedding itself. The wedding is just one day; the marriage is for a lifetime.
No one likes a bridezilla, and acting like a spoiled brat will take the joy out of your wedding planning. You could even ruin relationships with family and friends by behaving in an irrational manner. So, use these tips and go out there and be the model bride. Remember, Unique Occasions ByTNicole is here for you during this sometimes hectic time. We will help minimize the stress of planning your wedding by helping you turn your vision for your wedding into a reality.