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With all of the demands of life, sometimes being good to yourself takes a backseat to everything else.  However, being good to yourself is one of the most important things in life you can do.  Actually, we tend to do the exact opposite of being kind to ourselves.  Just think about how many times this week you have referred to yourself as stupid, fat, crazy or some other negative adjective.  Regardless of how confident you are, we all can fall into the trap of being self-disparaging.  It’s important to note that when you are uncomfortable with yourself, other people will not be comfortable with you either.  In order to live your best life, it is imperative that you be kind and loving to yourself.  Here are some tips to help you do that.

Monitor Your Thoughts

Be sure to monitor your thoughts and what you allow yourself to fixate on.  Everyone is unkind to him/herself at times, but you have to think seriously about how you talk to yourself on a regular basis.  When was the last time you thought something positive about yourself?  If you are like a lot of people, you cannot remember the last time you were nice to yourself.

Positive Self-Talk

Make a conscious effort to increase how often you engage in positive self-talk.  Focusing on talking to yourself may seem strange, but it helps with building a good relationship with yourself.  Start by looking in the mirror and telling yourself “I love you.”  Then say positive things like what you are good at, and what goals you have and will accomplish.  It seems silly at first, but over time, you will become more comfortable with doing this.  You may also notice that you will become happier with yourself.

Do What You Love

Take time to do something you like to do each day.  We all get so caught up with problems at work and in life that a lot of the time we don’t get to do something we enjoy for days or weeks.  Treat yourself like you would treat anyone you care about, and allow yourself at least one enjoyable thing every day.  It does not have to last a long time, but make room for something gratifying each day.

Surround Yourself Positive People

Make sure that you surround yourself with like-minded people.  Do not spend time or energy with people who are negative and tear you down.  Being around negative people is a distraction and will put your mind and emotions on a path that is not conducive with self-development and happiness.  Keep your mind filled with positivity by spending time with positive people who are good to you.

Keep A Journal

Track your daily journey in a notebook.  Fill it with good things about yourself and positive ramblings.  Take time to write about your skills, advantages, qualifications etc.  Your journal is a safe place to brag on yourself without sounding conceited.  Notes of your awesomeness that you can re-read will come in handy on the days you feel like a mess.  Your journal will serve as a reminder that, no matter how out of whack you feel, you are gifted and have great value.


You may be rusty and out of practice when it comes to being kind to yourself.  However, the tips in this article will hopefully remind you to be kind to yourself and help you better yourself.  It is important that you take the time to try each of these tips.  Getting even the slightest relief from the stressors of life is well worth it.  Being kind to yourself will lead to greater self-love.  Self-love will in turn open you up to great possibilities.

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